Tuesday, May 27, 2008

The trip was a pleasant success!

We spent twenty five action packed days on our journey and were thrilled that we did indeed make this vacation despite the hurdles! The trip went fairly uneventful, thankfully! Only on our very last day did we find bad luck once again - my husband was pickpocketed after letting his guard down and forgetfully putting his wallet in his back pocket in Dublin.

The flipside, positive spin is that the people of Dublin could not have been more helpful, caring, and genuinely sympathetic in helping us cancel the credit cards etc

Thursday, April 3, 2008

Goodbye standby & a bittersweet goodbye from New York...

We have been finally taken off stand-by status and the ship is no longer overbooked but rather fully booked as of today- so we are set to sail!

Of course, for some reason this trip seems to continuously throw some type of hurdle. Within ten minutes of confirming our Noordam transatlantic sailing, I was informed that my father was being rushed to the hospital. This scenario is tricky and complicated too.

My father has unfortunately been stolen from our lives by that ruthless thief known as Alzheimer's disease. He has been fighting this losing battle for the past decade and just six months ago we realized that we could no longer care for him to the level he needed being he has diabetes, high blood pressure, and is much more difficult to handle physically in this late stage as he has become aggressive due to never knowing what is going to happen. I'm certain that he, the father that I once knew would definitely want us to continue with our travel plans. I fear that the end is finally upon us, but it is so bitter sweet. I want to celebrate his life, his dreams and hopes for all of us as I have been mourning him for a long while now and maybe it's time to just make peace with ourselves. I vividly remember his joyful tears when my first son, his first grandchild, was born twelve years ago and how special it made me feel as I had never seen my own father cry.

I know that we have to give him permission to leave us now as it would break his heart to know he no longer has his dignity - he was a very proud, hardworking and practical man and loved my mother dearly. It would kill him to know the burden he has been to her in his late years. Now, the poor man is a 5'11" , 130lb helpless invalid who stares blankly into nothingness. If he goes now it is what's best for him and what he or anyone would want. My younger brother, sister in law, and nephew will be close to my father here in Miami should the inevitable crisis arise. My dad's relatives came to America on ships across the sea with proud Scottish roots and dreams of the new world; and so I am a twelfth generation American as a result of this journey. I guess our transatlantic journey may somehow be a memorial to my father and to how he always worked so hard to try and give us what we wanted or needed- the natural progression for each generation to hope for more for the next. Now, that's it, I've got it off my chest and believe in my heart that my father wants us to have an amazing time and find a way to leave our guilt and sorrow behind rather than bring it along as baggage. I only hope my mother can also find it in herself to forgive herself for not being able to care for him any longer and that she is only human and that my father always, always, put her on a pedestal and would want her to take her dream vacation while she still can due to her own illness. My parents relationship have given me strength, shown me courage, demostrated what unconditional love truly is, and taught me that decisions can be tough yet need to be made with full knowledge and reflection.

Life is so very short, we need to take, no better yet, make, the opportunities to fully enjoy and appreciate what we have and most of all who we have that's important in our lives and spend quality time with them.

I know too many people stuck in a rat race like hamster running ferociously on a spinning wheel thinking they are invincible or that there's always time to do something later in life. My brother's triumph over cancer, my mother's battle with Parkinson, my son's herculean efforts with trying to make his place in the world despite his Autism, and my father's long journey with Alzheimer's has made me reach out and do the things I've always wanted to do rather than putting them off. I want to share this transatlantic journey with my husband, children, mother and brother and fully enjoy it so that is what I am going to do!

To my dear father - I wish you could understand me, I wish I could converse with you and thank you for your love, your endless support, and your desire for all of us to find happiness and fulfillment in our lives. As a family,we will take this journey together with you in our hearts and find joy and comfort in one another's company. Most of all, we will grow and evolve together creating fond memories along with greater knowledge, experience, and wonder for the endless opportunites and lessons that await us in the ever-evolving world that will carry with us for the rest of our lives. I wish you could know your grandsons now, and how they to have yearned to know the real you as well. Your disease has motivated them to grow up wanting to make a difference in the world - like to find a cure for Alzheimer's, cancer, diabetes and more. Dad, I really want to wish you peace always and to know you are loved - love always, your daughter Kim

Tuesday, April 1, 2008

Standby -The agony of the wait

Well, it's now less than four days before we're scheduled to embark the MS Noordam, but we still are sailing in limbo for now. The ship as of 5pm pacific time was still "overbooked"; however the good news, or bad news, depending on how you look at it, is that they had approx 4 more cancellations today- probably voluntary bumps for their tempting and generous offerings.

I'm beyond torn, I could go on back to back 12 day European cruises in category S in May for giving up our two cabins on this 17 day itinerary which is beyond a sweet deal. It's tricky though, as we all happily chose the transatlantic and yet have varying opinions and preferences concerning the options that were offered to be bumped. How do you make a committed decision for a party of 6 ranging in age from 10 -73 about a vacation to Europe in less than 2 days???

We ALMOST volunteered to be bumped this afternoon. I called there, mustered the courage to say okay bump us and then the HAL rep that I've been working with assured me to wait it out til noon-time tomorrow as she believed the overbooking just might be resolved by then and literally wouldn't let me be bumped. Great, I finally gave in and went for the gold and she says "just wait" - what agony. We are tired of the stress and just want some certainty so we can look forward to a vacation rather than pull our hair out over it. Keep in mind that her 12:00 noon is to us, waiting ALL the way until 3pm wed (only about 72 hours before we are supposed to board the ship!) which we have to fly into NYC from Miami to catch - very nerve racking, maybe I will finally sleep this week when/if we board the ship.

Generally, I am euphoric right before a trip even if I'm in a frenzy to get ready. Clearly, I'm not feeling anything close to that now yet still trying to plow ahead forward through the choppy waters and get all our plans in order for IF we do indeed sail in three short days. One of the ports we looked forward to most was Casablanca and it was the most expensive and most tricky one to arrange economically so we could fully enjoy the intriguing sites that it offers - we really hope to visit magical Marrakech which is 3 hours from the port so doing this on your own is tricky and requires research and effort to get an awesome, safe, and economical visit.

So at three pm tomorrow, we stay or we fold period. If they can't guarantee that we most DEFINITELY have our cabins on the Noordam, then we will walk away with 2 cruises in deluxe suites to lick our wounds with over non-refundable airline tickets, stress, disappointment to have to wait for our trip, rescheduling vacation time, etc BUT I'm confident we will enjoy the amazing deal of 2 new cruises to look forward too. I'm sure many would call us crazy for not taking the deal immediately, but the situation is complicated with work schedules, existing reservations, and more. Either way, we will be happy to finally at least leave the limbo of standby - it's like "go to jail" in monopoly -everybody else is having fun, playing the game, reaping the rewards etc and you're just frozen there waiting to get a chance to roll doubles or pay to just get out of there.

I'm so behind in packing, laundry, housework, errands, arrangements etc now if we go as I've been consumed by figuring out how to cancel the reservations of our extended days after the cruise as well as the prearranged shore excursions that I orchestrated on our own rather than with HAL. I'll probably forget something important or worse, can somebody get me a glass of Shiraz please? - But I'm sure it will be blue skies by just after 3pm!

And so, our Noordam April 5th sailing conundrum, once again, is "to be continued" leaving us hanging overboard the balcony of cabin 4014...

Monday, March 31, 2008

Dead opossums, pacific time and other hurdles and ironies

I couldn't sleep last night. Sure, the possibility of being bumped off our cruise was on my mind but the awful smell of a dead critter is what disturbingly still kept me awake. Remember how I said we had tented our house this past weekend? Well, it definitely killed more than termites!

Early yesterday evening, my poor husband had to crawl under our house to hunt down a suspiciously awful smell - gotta love my husband, who fearlessly strapped on knee pads and a flashlight for the unpleasant adventure. After about twenty five long minutes, he thankfully came out with a dead opossum about the size of our cat and discarded it. He found it clear across the other side of the house from the crawl space entry. We felt relieved to have that task over and settled in for the evening thinking the smell would now fade away.

Well, guess what, there's definitely a little relative of that opossum under there still. The smell only increased over the night. So, my poor dear husband, who had to go into work very early to finish all his projects prior to his scheduled vacation time for this cruise has to make yet another visit under the house after he gets home from work again today, yuk! - definitely, positively, without a doubt he deserves taking this vacation so now we are all crossing all our fingers and toes that someone else canceled or volunteered to be bumped with perks.

It's tentatively now only five days before we cruise and fly into NYC but have yet to get to speak with the appropriate HAL representative being they are located in pacific time zone so the waiting game continues for about 3 hours to call and hear if we can stay aboard our cruise.


It only gets better, I got an new email from the representative who originally sent the email about the overbooking and request to change over to a different cruise, which is basically a request to accept bumping - it is an "out of the office auto reply" - she herself is on vacation beginning today until April 14th. So, the new hurdle is finding the best person to talk to once that pacific clock finally rolls into 8:30am ship inventory opening time.

So for now, I amuse myself with memories in the planning and selection of this cruise...

We decided that this was going to be our 13th wedding anniversary present to ourselves, being we did nothing special on our tenth. My kids laughed at this and called it the lucky cruise.

My eldest son looked at the dates and said, "wow, we'd be on the ship for the anniversary of the sinking of the Titanic" - not exactly a selling feature on a Transatlantic -yet overbooked.

My youngest son reveled in the fact that it went to Bermuda, "where the most ships have sank and right through the Bermuda triangle," with great enthusiasm.

Luckily, I am not a superstitious person(other than crossing my fingers and toes for this) because I'm still hoping to have the option to stay on this cruise.

The flip side is that yes they have offered some very generous options if we'd agree to volunteer to change from this cruise. One of the offers was a 29 day European cruise and we only paid for a 17 day. But.... all of the options are in later months(May, June, or October) and do not at all line up with airline reservations, hotel, museum tour reservations, etc Plus we like traveling in the shoulder season rather than the high season. But most of all, when you have been waiting and looking forward to a trip and are counting the days to leave - 10,9,8,7 and all the sudden at 6 you are asked to change it is downright disappointing. We knew that by booking our vacation with Liz on her discounted employee/family rate that we were considered standby, but never would have imagined that a company would try and bump so close to a departure when it's an international cruise booking and out of a port that is not our home port.

I've already tried researching what I can salvage from cruise related reservations -

American airlines will charge $200 per ticket plus the difference of the fair to totally change travel dates, cities, etc But the real bummer is that I had an amazing fare for this trip and can't touch that rate for future travel. As far as hotels, car rental ,etc some were prepaid and will have euro penalities to cancel while others will not. All prepaid museums in Italy are non-refundable but the bigger issue is they are hard to get during peak season so a bigger loss that way.

Other issues that I defintely can't put a price on for this trip that cost us dearly...
Dealing with my autistic son in assuring him that this will NOT happen every time we travel and that sometimes things happen beyond our control. By the way, this issue is more complicated than it seems, he is a control freak and a very concrete thinker.

My mother's health is at it's best today and will only get progessively worse with time. She has Parkinson's, is 73, and walks with a cane so time is of the essence when taking a trip of this magnitude with her. We really want to enjoy this experience with her and help her best see the things she has dreamed of seeing with her grandchildren by her side.

My husband's job makes it EXTREMELY difficult to get off planned vacation time. Every other vacation has been from the hip with about 2 weeks or less between reservation and actual travel. We were for once enjoying the planning stages etc rather than pack and go now method.

But, the real potential loss is that we had great deals, were eager to go, everyone is healthy and ready for travel plus we really loved the combination of land and sea that we had arranged.

For my mother and brother, who were joining us on this adventure -they had much more expensive airfare than us and it was with AirGorilla who claims to have a no refund policy. Hopefully AirGorilla shows some mercy somehow if we get bumped! Plus, they also had planned on staying abroad 34 days while we were at 25 days so they have way more reservations etc to deal with.

Anyhow, waiting, hoping, praying, and the outcome is unfortunately "to be continued'...

Sunday, March 30, 2008

Playing the waiting game for Noordam cruise 4/5 , yikes!

Had the house tented for termites this weekend and only just come back to a nightmare message from Friday that our ship, the Noordam, is overbooked and that we (my husband, 2 kids, mother and brother who paid in full for 2 balcony cabins three months ago) are possibly being bumped or politely being asked to choose to move over to another cruise option as we booked this vacation as ERPs through my cousin.

Yikes, my heart is somehow now pressing up into my throat uncontrollably. My mother is to put it mildly, freaking out after hearing me break the news of this possibility. Not that I can blame her, the poor woman has been caring for my Alzheimer's father for the past 6 years and more than deserves this break to finally take her dream voyage! We are all so psyched to be taking this trip as three generations of a family together. How could they wait this long to deal with overbooking? How can they ask people with only a week or less to just casually bump themselves off a transatlantic cruise???

I'm trying to be calm, really, I'm trying to believe that it will all work out. What more can I do?

No one could answer our call concerning the issue as the ship inventory dept has M-F hours only. So the waiting game is what we have to play. The sad faces of my two kids, my stressed out husband who has worked overtime for weeks to take the trip, and my broken hearted mother are as you can imagine not easy to face, my brother is dealing with it but hopeful!

Keep your fingers crossed that cancellations have come in by passenger choice leaving me, my family and any fellow Noordam travelers who received similar blows this weekend on the ship! I don't want one of their very generous longer cruise offers etc to be voluntarily bumped- we have our hearts set on this trip.

waiting.... optimistic...waiting....worried....waiting...
Kim